Friday, October 13, 2017

This, That, and the Other

Most of the time, with the modern advances in digital photo-shopping, I am able to disguise the fact that I am indeed a child of the seventies. That is until my mother comes on the scene.

Before my parents headed south, Senia Mae and I flew up to the Beantown one last time to help them clean out the attic, which looked strikingly similar to an episode of "Hoarders."

"Mom, why are you saving all of this crap?" I asked.

"You never known when your children are going to want a piece of their childhood...," she said as she held up a Smurfs mini deck of cards key ring. "Remember this?" Mom asked. "This was your first key to our old house. You demanded to have your own key when you were only in kindergarten!"

The Smurfs key ring was not something I was particularly interested in but come to think of it I wouldn't have minded uncovering my old Pigs in Space lunchbox. I remember strutting into the cafeteria of the Shawsheen School feeling like I was the coolest kid on the block (believe me, I wasn't) just because I was toting that square metal lunchbox.

For some reason, my clouded memory seems to think I might have had an incident at the bus stop where I pounded my beloved lunchbox over the head of Richie Gardner, the street bully, and then shamefully threw it away to hide the evidence. No, I must have dreamed up that terrible story. I urged Senia Mae to keep looking.

After the last box was finally cleared, the old attic looked amazingly empty. I was reminded of how enormous the space was.
"Mom, there is so much room you could have a whole bowling alley up here! Why didn't we think of that before?" I laughed as the three of us walked down the creaky attic stairs and closed the door for the last time. There was no sight of my old lunchbox, I knew it was gone.

On the plane ride back to Atlanta I asked Senia Mae if she found any great treasures in Grammy's attic. "Oh yes," she said as she pulled out a dusty coloring book that Grammy has secretly slid into her bag. Senia Mae beamed proudly as she displayed the yellowed pages of what obviously was once my Disco Girl coloring book.
Of all of the discarded pieces of my childhood, Disco girl was what she chose. And that is why there's no real way to hide my age because there's always evidence hiding somewhere in my mother's house!

By the time we had gotten home, Kim had heard all about our adventures in the attic and my disappointment over not finding my Pigs in Space lunchbox. One of the great benefits of our modern computer age is that if you can't find what you long for in your mom's old attic, you can usually find it on Ebay! Thank you, Kim!

Wednesday, October 4, 2017

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Tuesday, August 22, 2017

Mom's Nightmare...Don't Say The Washing Machine is Broken!

The past few times I have showered downstairs after my morning workout I have felt a tingling sensation run up my arm as I turned on the hot water. "That must have been an electrifying workout," I would kid to myself without much more thought. That was until I stepped out of the shower and looked up, noticing the ceiling light fixture half-full of water. My workout wasn't any more intense than usual, I was just unknowingly electrocuting myself.

Water in the downstairs light fixture usually means the washing machine is leaking upstairs. If you don't know so already, our lovely abode is a 1957 lake cabin that slants downhill towards the lake. Any stray water runs down the wall, through the ceiling, then uses the bathroom light fixture as a collection bucket.

In this house, saying the washing machine is broken is almost as severe as saying Christmas has been canceled. Kim was the oldest of six kids, so she grew up washing the few sets of clothes they had on a daily basis.

Even though our family of three creates much less dirty laundry than what she is used to, Kim still has that old mindset and is now what I call a "constant launderer." Even though our washer is only a few years old, because it is constantly running it probably gets the use of a washer five to ten years older.

I like to consider myself a diva of diagnosis. It's what I do in practice to help people heal from the inside out... I see no reason why I can't help the washing machine do the same. The LG help line sent me a text of the six most common front loader leak areas, I should be able to check those locations and be done with it. Nope. After cleaning all six areas and running the empty tub clean cycle three times in a row, warm suds are still spewing from underneath the machine. Of course I declined the extended warranty,guess I'll have to suck it up and call the 800 number!

Tuesday, August 15, 2017

The Significance of Having Curly Hair: Butt paste... not only for sore bottoms!

The Significance of Having Curly Hair: Butt paste... not only for sore bottoms!: Here in Georgia, it seems as the first school bell rings into session, so do the back to school sniffles. I am always surprised that after a...

Butt paste... not only for sore bottoms!

Here in Georgia, it seems as the first school bell rings into session, so do the back to school sniffles. I am always surprised that after a full summer of fresh air and immune-boosting sunshine... seven hours of a packed classroom can bring on the bright red, inflamed upper lip from a runny nose.

It used to be that I could run to the white bathroom cabinet, grab the salve, and have it applied to her face without any fight or fury. This particular evening we were tired and sitting on the couch. Nonchalantly Kim asked if Senia Mae could run into the bathroom and grab the green tube of cream on the bottom shelf so we could address her sore upper lip before bedtime.

Every mom knows that most household items have multiple uses, much more than what is printed on the label. Forgetting that our child can now read, we burst out laughing as Senia Mae returned to the living room with a completely appalled expression on her face.
"But Momma, THIS is butt paste!"

"Oh, that's the stuff, it's just called butt paste, but its really good for any type of skin rash or irritation."

"Are you sure?" she asked skeptically holding it up to her nose as if it might actually smell like a butt.
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"Yes, its the same stuff we put on last night... you just didn't know. Sometimes I forget you can read!" LOL.

Thursday, May 18, 2017

Why I Hate To Admit That I NOW Understand The Concept For Mom Jeans

Even though all of the text books say I am in the prime of my life, some days I just want to stick up my middle finger to the mid-forties. My metabolism has come to a screeching halt, I am pretty sure my thyroid function is non-existent, and I really don't know why I am saving any of my pre-pregnancy tops that once looked good around my midriff because those days are apparently long gone too.

I remember the days when I would look at my body in the mirror and like what I saw; granted it was my "just out of high school" running body, but once upon a time had chiseled abs and a rear end that would make a truck stop. Nowadays it doesn't seem to matter how many miles I put on the treadmill, if I nix sugar for the zero calorie monk fruit packets, or dine on a salad and hard boiled egg instead of lasagna, my body is clearly NOT THE SAME.

There is part of me that is still determined to shop in the trendy juniors section. I find myself huffing over the racks silently saying, "Why don't they carry this in an extra-large?" And everybody knows all of the cutest tops are made out of 100% rayon. For some reason, even if the label says machine wash cold then line dry, my rayon shirts seem to have the "Incredible Shrinking Woman" problem, where the vertical coverage decreases with every wash.

Since birthing a child at thirty-six, midriff exposed shirts are no longer a good look for me. That baby pouch just never seems to go away even when I give us this day our daily planks...hence my new appreciation of mom jeans. Once I couldn't understand why anyone would wear any pant higher that their hip but now I'll take a little height around the waist.

My Conclusion?

Mom Jeans: It's not about the camel toe...it's about hiding and preserving what once was!

Thursday, May 4, 2017

The Tired Kisser - What Does Your Child Do When They Are Exhausted?

Some kids have meltdowns, some kids get grumpy, some get sleepy, others get hyperactive when life has pushed them past the time when they should really be in bed. Fortunately for us, Senia Mae has never been a fit thrower or tantrum raiser. She is, however, a tired kisser.

When Senia Mae stays awake and dips into the bewitching hours, her reaction has always been to cuddle up to us, covering our faces with gentle kisses. I remember riding the tram back to the parking lot after an exhausting day at The Magic Kingdom. Many of the other younger children were screaming or acting belligerent, making their parents' memory of the happiest place on Earth a little less than magical. Senia Mae draped herself over my shoulder planting little pecks on my neck as she nuzzled her face into my hair. Although these tired kisses can get a little wet and drippy, if this is the worst behavior we get, we'll take it.

Now that she's a little older she doesn't require as much cuddling and caressing from me. She wants to be independent and do things herself. It saddens me that she's too heavy for me to carry her tired little body in from the car, but our tired kisses are not all lost. Instead of me holding her, she hunts me down in the only place a Mama can get any privacy, the bathroom.

The other night she poked her head around the white, six-paneled door that separated me momentarily from the chaos of my daily life.
"Mama, can we kiss on the toilet?" she asked, trying to delay getting into bed.

"Yes," I say, because I realize that part of her still needs my comfort even while I'm temporarily indisposed!


Thursday, February 16, 2017

Bless Her Heart, There's No Cooking That Compares to Mama's


As parents, we all want our children to remember us in some special way. It may be that super ability to make the hurt spot feel better with just a little kiss or being the protector from the scary monsters during the darkest of nights.

I show my love in the kitchen and would love my daughter to remember the food I made for her as a labor of love and devotion, one that provides happiness and comfort, like being wrapped up in a warm fuzzy blanket. More often than I would like to admit, my labors of love feel unappreciated because Senia Mae is a picky eater. Sometimes I make things especially for her, using ingredients I know she likes, and still my vittles can go untouched. I try not to take it personally, she is only seven.

The other day when I picked her up from school her eyes were red, like she had just stopped crying.

"Senia Mae, what's wrong?" I asked, alarmed that my happy go lucky child got in the car with sad, watery eyes.

"I had a terrible day," she said. "I'd call it a zero." We have her rank every day at school between 1 and 10. It's a way for us to get a better idea of how her day went rather than asking," How was your day?" and getting the standard, non-descriptive response of "fine."

"A zero? Why?" I asked as I pulled the car into the breakdown lane and turned around to face her in the back seat. Her lower lip poked out, just like it had when she was a toddler, as she held back tears. "Honey, what is it? Was someone mean to you?"

"Carson poked me in the eye by accident during parent pick up," she said, looking down. I tried to keep my face serious.

"I bet that hurt."

"It did," she said. "And I got kicked during recess."

"Who kicked you?"

"Some boys that were playing soccer and running by."

"Oh, that's terrible. Did they apologize?" I asked.

"Yes, she said. But what made everything worse was that I spent the whole day hungry and still am." A few tears rolled out of the corner of her eyes and landed gently on her sleeve. Obviously to her being hungry was much worse than I could have imagined.

"Why were you hungry? Didn't you eat at lunch today?" I asked remembering how I urged her to diversify her palate and try the school lunch instead of just another peanut butter and jelly. "They had meatball subs... you love meatballs."

"Mama," she moaned as if I should already know what she is about to say, "those meatballs were all hard and dark. Plus they were really burnt, not soft and moist. I wouldn't even touch them. Yick."

I do remember disgusting school lunches from my day, but from what I had observed at her school, the food was actually decent.

"So you didn't even try them?"

"No, I just ate the bread and sauce."

"Well you should at least try them, don't you think?" I ask, feeling like Sam I Am. Would you eat them near or far? Would you eat them in a car?

"Mama, they weren't good like your meatballs... "
And there... there it was... the little gem I had been waiting seven years to hear. My face lit up with joy over my fussy child's sudden appreciation of my cooking. If I had the ability to record that sentence I would have played that tape over and over.

"Well of course their not going to be like Mama's," I say with one of the biggest, proudest smiles my face has ever produced. "Let's go get you something good to eat."

Tuesday, February 7, 2017

The Discovery of Valentine's Day Costumes

"Mama, can we go to Target?" Senia Mae asks as we pull out of the elementary school's parent pick up.

"What do you need there?"

"Some Valentine's decorations for my American Girl dollhouse. You know my girls need to be ready."

"Of course they do," I say with sarcasm, "Um, Target is twenty minutes away. How about if we run through Walmart real quick? We are low on milk and we also need to pick up some cat food."

"OK, Mama," she says, sitting happily in the back seat.

We enter Walmart not on the grocery side but through the retail door because the "seasonal" promotions and pet sections are equally close.

"Mama, look at THOSE costumes," Senia Mae excitedly shouts as she points to the rack that held the children's Halloween costumes a few months before.

"Ahhh, those aren't really costumes," I say nervously as two other women overhear our conversation and choke back laughter.

Walmart O Walmart... how I love thee. When I'm in my mad dash to get my list completed in thirty minutes, you provide everything I require in a quick one stop shop: groceries, first-aid, lawn care, arts and crafts, and now even chintzy Valentine's lingerie! Watch out Frederick's of Hollywood!

Tuesday, January 17, 2017

Why Meal Planning is NOT on My List of Goals For the Year


In case you missed it, here's the link to my latest article on Red Tricycle, Why Meal Planning is NOT on my List of Goals For the Year http://redtri.com/why-meal-planning-is-not-on-my-list-of-goals-for-the-year/#

Tuesday, January 10, 2017

What to do when your child no longer NEEDS you...


I secretly fret over when that day will come. The day when Senia Mae chooses to soother herself or even scarier yet, finds comfort in the company of a boyfriend. I realize this is inevitable... but I just need a few more years to get ready.

Click on the link below to read my most recent article in Red Tricycle about my dreaded fear.
http://redtri.com/just-when-i-thought-she-no-longer-needed-me/

Sunday, January 1, 2017

Please Celebrate Me Home

As another crazy holiday season wraps up, Facebook Time Hop reminded me of a time a few years ago when the holidays were even a little bit more chaotic. But who doesn't love a twenty hour road trip to kick off the holiday celebrations? I've always considered the season not completely over until I'm utterly exhausted, red numbers in bank account broke, and crammed in the car with all the excessive trimmings and trappings.

This picture was from our road trip in 2012. Those days we used to travel up the East Coast, stay a few days with Kim's family in Delaware, then spend Christmas Eve and day with my parents in Massachusetts. Even though those trips took up most of my vacation time for the year and we usually came home sick and tired, they were so much fun and I actually miss taking them.

On the twenty hour drive back to Georgia, we would sometimes stop in Delaware again and pick up Aunt Katie and cousin Olivia. Adding a few more people to the Christmas load always meant the last twelve hours of the trip the car was stuffed to the max, giving new meaning to that old Grinch saying, "We rode with our load."

During the every few hour body rotation, Aunt Katie got transferred to the tiny third row seat. Out of courtesy and politeness I asked, "Do you have enough space back there, Katie?" Her sarcastic reply, "Um, yeah... TONS" is still told with laughter at the Christmas dinner table. And isn't that what a family Christmas all about?

In 2012 Senia Mae was two and a half years old. That particular trip, besides being sardined in the car for twelve hours, we experienced an employee brawl at a roadside Waffle House. The manager and the cook started throwing punches at each other right in front of the grill as we ducked under our booth in horror.

At another pit stop one of the dogs escaped from the car and was rapidly heading towards the highway. All of the adults blanketed the parking lot and we eventually trapped our feisty canine. As we were pulling the reluctant dog back to the car, a certain toddler with a limited few-word vocabulary, realized that our plans involved returning to the crammed car. She locked her knees and halted right in the middle of the parking lot like a stubborn old mule.

"Poopie Diaper, poopie Diaper," she pleaded.

"Senia Mae, I know you don't have a poopie diaper because we just changed you in the rest room," I said. Her saucer shaped eyes had the most pitiful look as she peered up at me.

"Poopie diaper?" she asked now, hoping she could at least get a few more moments of freedom.

"We'll be home soon, ok?" I reassured her and we finally got back on the road. The little one completely understood why the dog tried to escape the confines of the overcrowded vehicle.

It's been several years since we've made the Christmas trip up the East Coast and Santa now visits us at our home. Even though it is much more relaxing to not have to make the great drive, I am surprised that my fondest memories are not actually of the family celebrations, but the humorous two-day road trip that always ended up being the highlight of my holiday. The best part is not always the destination, but the journey. I told Kim this year that I actually wished we were making the trip again.

Perry Como was so right in Home For The Holidays when he sang, "Take a bus, take a train, go and hop an aeroplane, put the wife an' kiddies in the family car! For the pleasure that you bring when you make that doorbell ring, no trip could be too far!"